by Nancy Fagan,
|Nothing is more
endearing than the first time your partner calls you by a pet
name. One thing is sure-it signifies that your partner is
comfortable with you.
When you hear the name, it makes you feel special because it sets
you apart from
the others in his or her life. It's amazing what a little phrase
of fondness can do.
Anyone can call you by your first name, but only a special person
can make up his
or her own name for you. Even friends and family can't use pet
names on you.
Sure, they can call you something other than your name, but it's
not the same as
when your partner says it. What's in a Name?
Some pet names are easier to use than others. The easiest terms
are the ones that
sound more like compliments such as: sugar, honey, sweet pea,
sweetheart, handsome, beautiful, baby and darling.
Pet Names Can Be Awkward
Using pet names is a difficult thing for some people. For some, it
like they are making a commitment by using anything other than
first name. For others, they just feel too reserved to use an
If this describes you, don't feel like you are the only one,
because others are
uncomfortable with this form of intimacy as well. For some, using
a pet name
flows easily, and for others, it takes a little practice.
It's always easier to practice over the phone if you are the
uncomfortable. All you have to do is answer the phone, and when
you hear your
partner's voice, without hesitation, say, "Hi there,
Then take a deep breath and know that the next time will be
easier. You can bet
your partner, on the other end, will be smiling from ear to ear.
She'll feel so special just because you called her something
It works every time; test it out for yourself.
Nancy Fagan, M.S., author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to
"Desirable Men: How to Find Them." To read more, visit www.ExpertLoveAdvice.com.