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Honey, Darling, Sweetie Pie: by Nancy Fagan, M.S.,

Nothing is more endearing than the first time your partner calls you by a pet
name. One thing is sure-it signifies that your partner is comfortable with you.
When you hear the name, it makes you feel special because it sets you apart from
the others in his or her life. It's amazing what a little phrase of fondness can do.

Anyone can call you by your first name, but only a special person can make up his
or her own name for you. Even friends and family can't use pet names on you.
Sure, they can call you something other than your name, but it's not the same as
when your partner says it. What's in a Name?

Some pet names are easier to use than others. The easiest terms are the ones that
sound more like compliments such as: sugar, honey, sweet pea, princess, prince,
sweetheart, handsome, beautiful, baby and darling.

Pet Names Can Be Awkward

Using pet names is a difficult thing for some people. For some, it almost feels
like they are making a commitment by using anything other than their partner's
first name. For others, they just feel too reserved to use an affectionate term.
If this describes you, don't feel like you are the only one, because others are
uncomfortable with this form of intimacy as well. For some, using a pet name
flows easily, and for others, it takes a little practice.

It's always easier to practice over the phone if you are the slightest bit
uncomfortable. All you have to do is answer the phone, and when you hear your
partner's voice, without hesitation, say, "Hi there, handsome/ beautiful!"
Then take a deep breath and know that the next time will be easier. You can bet
your partner, on the other end, will be smiling from ear to ear.
She'll feel so special just because you called her something special.
It works every time; test it out for yourself.

Nancy Fagan, M.S., author of "The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance" and
"Desirable Men: How to Find Them." To read more, visit

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